Velvet Lilith

I'm Velvet Lilith, Somatic Sexologist, Intimacy and Relationship coach based in Melbourne, working with clients online and in person.

The people who come to me are usually experiencing sex and intimacy as a source of anxiety or dissatisfaction: a place that doesn't quite work, or that they've stopped expecting to. Some arrive with a specific difficulty, such as pain with sex, low or mismatched desire, difficulty reaching orgasm, performance anxiety or shutdown during intimacy. Others are navigating a relationship change, opening a relationship, or exploring their sexuality and identity later in life, navigating dating...

I work with both the mind and the body. I teach my clients what's actually going on in their bodies and relationships, so they stop assuming something is wrong with them. I help them uncover the unconscious beliefs and inherited stories shaping how they experience their body, sex, intimacy and relationships, and together we rewrite the narratives that no longer serve them. And I share somatic practices that support pleasure and nervous-system regulation, because desire, arousal and intimacy live in the nervous system, and that's where change sticks.

My practice is queer, kink, non-monogamy and sex-worker informed and welcoming to all genders, identities and relationship structures.